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The Core of Love and Joy with Jett Psaris

Jett Psaris describes "Undefended Love" as knowing oneself and another simultaneously without obstruction. When we fall in love we glimpse the essence of ourself and experience the inner core of our being as goodness, joy, love and peace. “Intimacy is a spiritual practice,” she tells us, “love is one of the most potent ways for our journey to be initiated.” Life gives us a choice. Do we defend against and reject our experience - or - do we accept our vulnerability and let it be the source of guidance? She believes sustained and evolving intimacy is possible. We can recognize that love is the universal solvent to growing who we are: in our ability to care for one another, and our ability to be who we glimpsed when we fell in love.


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Photo courtesy of www.jettpsaris.com

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Jett Psaris

Jett Psaris’ work is about helping others transform psychologically, deepen spiritually, and cultivate soulfulness in every aspect of life.

She is the co-author of Undefended Love, a Nautilus Award finalist for its “distinguished contribution to conscious living and positive change;” Undefended Love has enjoyed a 5 star rating on Amazon.com for most of the past 17 years.

She has also authored a popular online course about the transformative stages of midlife entitled Taking the Midlife Leap, One Step at a Time. Most recently, Jett has published Hidden Blessings: Midlife Crisis as a Spiritual Awakening, a book that Patricia Holt, former book critic with the San Francisco Chronicle, writes is the “best book on midlife” she’s ever reviewed.


 

Love Is A Spiritual Path: From Personal Love to True Love with Polly Young-Eisendrath

The formula for love and marriage in the 21st Century has evolved from Romantic Love to Personal Love - love has been taken out of the demands of tradition, arranged marriages, family and tribal affiliations - we can now get married based on personal love, choosing anyone we want. Polly Young Eisendrath describes this new intimate relationship as one with no hierarchy, based on mutual respect and reciprocity, with each partner becoming a life-long friend and witness to the other. But as she explains, this shift has made love and marriage so much more difficult. There is good news though - we are now being given an opportunity to evolve spiritually and psychologically, and we must rise to this challenge if we want to be okay in our relationships, if we want to experience True Love.  “Love is a spiritual path,” she says, “It requires skill and sacrifice.”


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Find out more from Polly's website

 https://young-eisendrath.com/

Polly Young-Eisendrath

POLLY YOUNG-EISENDRATH, Ph.D., is a Jungian Psychoanalyst, Psychologist, author, and speaker. She is Clinical Associate Professor of Psychiatry at the University of Vermont, founding faculty at the Vermont Institute for the Psychotherapies, and past president of the Vermont Association for Psychoanalytic Studies. She is in independent practice with individuals and couples in central Vermont. Polly is the originator of Dialogue Therapy, a time-limited couple therapy that integrates psychoanalysis and mindfulness and helps couples move from disillusionment to intimacy.

Polly is the author of fifteen books, as well as many chapters and articles. Her books have been translated into more than twenty languages.  Her most recent works are The Present Heart: A Memoir of Love, Loss and Discovery (Rodale, 2014); The Self-Esteem Trap: Raising Confident and Compassionate Kids in an Age of Self-Importance (Little, Brown, 2008); and The Cambridge Companion to Jung: New and Revised, of which she is co-editor with Terence Dawson (Cambridge University Press, 2008). In 2018, Shambhala Publications will publish True Love Ways: Relationship as Psycho-Spiritual Development, Polly’s new book which sets out the principles of Dialogue Therapy for a general audience.


 

Rebecca Street: Holding A Healing Space

How To Help Survivors Of Sexual Abuse

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The silence that surrounds sexual abuse and assault keeps survivors mute, isolated and in the shadows, forcing them into deeper cycles of trauma, shame and self-blame. It also protects and absolves their perpetrators. Silence is one of the biggest obstacles to stopping this taboo epidemic. Finding very few books to help chart a way through these rough waters, Rebecca Street felt called to act. A sexual abuse survivor herself, it took Rebecca ten courageous years to write You Can Help. She began by asking difficult and vital questions, such as: “How can we come together to bring light to this darkness? How can we end this taboo?” She invited other survivors to share their stories and gives practical tips for helping - such as words one can use to open the door and encourage the secrets to be brought into the light and shared. “Healing,” she notes, “doesn’t take place in a vacuum. We need others to participate.” Her gentle and infinitely compassionate book gives us a way to begin the conversation and find the path to healing that will help the women, men, teenagers, young adults and children that are suffering from the trauma of sexual abuse.

 


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REBECCA STREET

REBECCA STREET is a New York based TV, stage, and film actor. She lived in Los Angeles for twenty-four years where she raised her children and worked in TV and film. Though she has performed in many TV episodics, films, and commercials, she is perhaps best known for her 2 year portrayal of a woman with AIDS on “The Young & Restless." NY credits include HBO’s “Mildred Pierce,” "House of Cards," and playing Mary Tyrone in "Long Day’s Journey into Night" Off Broadway. In 2017 fshe was eatured in the new Gore Verbinski film, "A Cure for Wellness," which she shot in Berlin. 


Rebecca is an incest survivor, having experienced 15 years of sexual abuse by her biological father. She is grateful that her journey to recovery has finally brought her to a place where she can be a public advocate for the many others who have suffered sexual trauma, and do so without shame. Hence, You Can Help: A Guide for Family and Friends of Survivors of Sexual Abuse and Assault.  She has addressed both lay people and professionals at a variety of venues on the ramifications of sexual trauma and methods for facilitating recovery, including the NY State Office of Mental Health, the University of CA. Santa Barbara, Juilliard, and the Fordham Graduate School of Social Work.  This Fall, Rebecca is offering a free 6 week online healing program designed specifically for survivors, entitled YOU ARE NOT ALONE.   

 

www.youcanhelpsurvivors.com


Praise for

You Can Help

 

"Rebecca Street’s book, You Can Help offers a miraculous blend of compassion and pragmatic advice about how to help survivors of abuse. Ms. Street shows great bravery and understanding as she explains her own journey from abuse to healing, and shares the knowledge she has distilled from it. She offers her expertise with a gentle directness that should ease the way for anyone struggling to comfort a loved one who has been subjected to violence. My research on adult development has taught me that the problem of abuse is widespread and profound. I hope this book reaches as many individuals as possible; it has great potential to speed the healing process."

— CONNIE GERSICK, Ph.D 
Faculty Co-Founder, UCLA Women’s Leadership Institute
Visiting Scholar, Yale School of Management
Senior Research Associate, Lansberg, Gersick and Associates, New Haven, CT.

 

"Rebecca Street’s courageous, sensitive and well-written book, You Can Help is a much needed resource for educating and empowering survivors, their friends and family members, and the professionals who work with them. As a psychotherapist and social worker for over 20 years, sadly I have seen far too many people affected by sexual trauma, and I wish that I could have given this book to every single one of them."

— MARTHA E. MILLER, LCSW 
Psychotherapist
Stress Resilience Educator and Consultant
Private Practice, New York, N.Y.

 

"Rebecca Street’s book, You Can Help is a great resource for family and friends of victims of sexual trauma as well as for the victims themselves. The author recounts her own story of recovery while providing hope, encouragement, and practical tips for those wishing to participate in the healing of a loved one who has been victimized. Street takes it a step farther by including stories from a wide range of other sexual abuse and assault survivors who share moving first-person examples of their own journeys to recovery."

— KIRK RAY SMITH, MS 
Former President & CEO
YMCA
Greater Springfield, MA.

 

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Purchase You Can Help on Amazon or Create Space!

If you have experienced trauma, you are not alone!


Please contact Susan for help if you are a trauma survivor and want specialized treatment. Fees are negotiable.

 

 

Some additional resources:

RAINN: The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network
RAINN operates the National Sexual Assault Hotline and carries out programs to prevent sexual assault, help victims, and ensure that rapists are brought to justice.

Darkness to Light: End Child Sex Abuse
Darkness to Light is an advocacy organization that educates adults how to prevent, recognize, and react responsibly to the reality of child sexual abuse.

CARRYING THE LEGACY OF INHERITED TRAUMA INTO THE LIGHT With Elizabeth Rosner

 Elizabeth Rosner on her story & new book: Survivor Cafe

In her profound and poetically written non-fiction book Survivor Cafe, Elizabeth Rosner explores intergenerational atrocity, trauma and memory, linking both the personal experience and the collective responsibility. In this conversation she reveals how directly and indirectly her parent’s (Holocaust survivors) trauma shaped the human being she became; physically, emotionally and psychologically; how she came to understand that she always did and always will carry the aftermath of their trauma within her; that it wasn’t as simple as her often given explanation when she was a child of being “too sensitive.” She asks “How does atrocity defy memory and simultaneously demand to be remembered?” She explores how sense memory is carried forward - especially in where and how we feel safe - pointing out places, among trees in a woods for instance, where some feel safe and at peace while others feel afraid and unsafe. Her book is ultimately a call to action, weaving atrocities from the enslavement of Africans, to the genocide of Native Americans, from the Holocaust, to the dropping of the atom bomb on Hiroshima and Nagasaki. She is asking us “to step up and be responsible, to actively own up to the darkness of the past and say we are committed to do this differently now” - in the hopes that our capacity for empathy will grow from acknowledging, remembering and connecting with others as we circumnavigate this sea of suffering.

 


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Photo credit: Judy Dater

Photo credit: Judy Dater

 

ELIZABETH ROSNER

 

Elizabeth Rosner is the author of three novels and a poetry collection. The Speed of Light was translated into nine languages and won several awards in the US and in Europe, including being shortlisted for the prestigious Prix Femina. Blue Nude was named among the best books of 2006 by the San Francisco ChronicleElectric City was named among the best books of 2014 by NPR. Her essays and reviews have appeared in the New York Times MagazineElle, the San Francisco Chronicle, and others. She lives in Berkeley.

Learn more at elizabethrosner.com.

Buy Survivor Cafe: The Legacy of Trauma and the Labryrinth of Memory here.

 

On the Journey With Alexis Rhone Fancher

Connecting with the poetry, life and power of Alexis Rhone Fancher

Alexis Rhone Fancher wrote poems as a child -  “not very good,” she confesses - but she was in love with the form, the conciseness, the stripping away of every unnecessary word that left you with a poem, a faceted jewel “when it’s done right.” Lifetimes later she put pen to paper again, mining the vein of her life to bring up jewel after jewel of faceted perfection. Her poems - confessional, accessible, available - create worlds she invites readers to step into, offering mirrors of reflection and connection. She strips her life bare, sending it vulnerable and naked, proud and powerful, across the page. Her ex-husbands, male and female lovers, sister, child, death, pain, joy, sex, and suffering all play their parts. “Follow your passion. It’s a journey, not a destination,” she reminds us.  “Be here now and see the magic happen.”


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Alexis Rhone Fancher

 

Alexis Rhone Fancher is the author of How I Lost My Virginity To Michael Cohen and other heart stab poems, (2014), State of Grace: The Joshua Elegies, (2015), and Enter Here, (June, 2017). She is published in Best American Poetry, 2016, Rattle, Slipstream, Wide Awake: Poets of Los Angeles, Hobart, Cleaver, and elsewhere. Her photos are published worldwide, including a spread in River Styx, and the covers of Witness, Heyday, and the Chiron Review. 

Since 2013 Alexis has been nominated for 11 Pushcart Prizes and 4 Best of the Net awards. She is Poetry Editor of Cultural Weekly, where she also publishes a monthly photo essay, “The Poet’s Eye,” about her on-going love affair with Los Angeles. 

For more of Alexis' poetry and photography,

visit her website

One of the 14 photos in Alexis' new, full-length collection:  Enter Here

One of the 14 photos in Alexis' new, full-length collection: Enter Here