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The Reverberation of Loss: Dr. Pilar Jennings on How to deal with loss during the holidays

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This conversation with Dr. Pilar Jennings, a long time Buddhist practitioner and psychoanalyst, arrives just in time for the holidays. During this season of giving and receiving, connection and celebration, it is entirely normal that current and prior losses are bubbling up. For some this can be an extremely difficult time because our fantasies are not jiving with our reality - making us particularly vulnerable to feeling isolated and lonely. “Be tender with yourself and find the people, the places where you feel well received, where you feel cared for and seen.” She reminds us that the psyche pushes for wellness, wanting to find some deep resource internally that can facilitate the healing we all want and need. From her Buddhist practice she offers this perspective - healing from loss can be helped through mindfulness and a spiritual practice that allows for what we find.


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Dr. Pilar Jennings

 

Pilar Jennings, PhD, is a psychoanalyst in private practice with a focus on the clinical applications of Buddhist meditation.  She has been working with patients and their families through the Harlem Family Institute since 2004. A visiting lecturer at Union Theological Seminary, and a guest lecturer at Columbia University, she is the author of Mixing Minds: The Power of Relationship in Psychoanalysis and Buddhism.

 

Find out more about Pilar and her work on her website

 

The Core of Love and Joy with Jett Psaris

Jett Psaris describes "Undefended Love" as knowing oneself and another simultaneously without obstruction. When we fall in love we glimpse the essence of ourself and experience the inner core of our being as goodness, joy, love and peace. “Intimacy is a spiritual practice,” she tells us, “love is one of the most potent ways for our journey to be initiated.” Life gives us a choice. Do we defend against and reject our experience - or - do we accept our vulnerability and let it be the source of guidance? She believes sustained and evolving intimacy is possible. We can recognize that love is the universal solvent to growing who we are: in our ability to care for one another, and our ability to be who we glimpsed when we fell in love.


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Photo courtesy of www.jettpsaris.com

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Jett Psaris

Jett Psaris’ work is about helping others transform psychologically, deepen spiritually, and cultivate soulfulness in every aspect of life.

She is the co-author of Undefended Love, a Nautilus Award finalist for its “distinguished contribution to conscious living and positive change;” Undefended Love has enjoyed a 5 star rating on Amazon.com for most of the past 17 years.

She has also authored a popular online course about the transformative stages of midlife entitled Taking the Midlife Leap, One Step at a Time. Most recently, Jett has published Hidden Blessings: Midlife Crisis as a Spiritual Awakening, a book that Patricia Holt, former book critic with the San Francisco Chronicle, writes is the “best book on midlife” she’s ever reviewed.


 

On the Journey With Alexis Rhone Fancher

Connecting with the poetry, life and power of Alexis Rhone Fancher

Alexis Rhone Fancher wrote poems as a child -  “not very good,” she confesses - but she was in love with the form, the conciseness, the stripping away of every unnecessary word that left you with a poem, a faceted jewel “when it’s done right.” Lifetimes later she put pen to paper again, mining the vein of her life to bring up jewel after jewel of faceted perfection. Her poems - confessional, accessible, available - create worlds she invites readers to step into, offering mirrors of reflection and connection. She strips her life bare, sending it vulnerable and naked, proud and powerful, across the page. Her ex-husbands, male and female lovers, sister, child, death, pain, joy, sex, and suffering all play their parts. “Follow your passion. It’s a journey, not a destination,” she reminds us.  “Be here now and see the magic happen.”


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Alexis Rhone Fancher

 

Alexis Rhone Fancher is the author of How I Lost My Virginity To Michael Cohen and other heart stab poems, (2014), State of Grace: The Joshua Elegies, (2015), and Enter Here, (June, 2017). She is published in Best American Poetry, 2016, Rattle, Slipstream, Wide Awake: Poets of Los Angeles, Hobart, Cleaver, and elsewhere. Her photos are published worldwide, including a spread in River Styx, and the covers of Witness, Heyday, and the Chiron Review. 

Since 2013 Alexis has been nominated for 11 Pushcart Prizes and 4 Best of the Net awards. She is Poetry Editor of Cultural Weekly, where she also publishes a monthly photo essay, “The Poet’s Eye,” about her on-going love affair with Los Angeles. 

For more of Alexis' poetry and photography,

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One of the 14 photos in Alexis' new, full-length collection:  Enter Here

One of the 14 photos in Alexis' new, full-length collection: Enter Here