The Reverberation of Loss: Dr. Pilar Jennings on How to deal with loss during the holidays

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This conversation with Dr. Pilar Jennings, a long time Buddhist practitioner and psychoanalyst, arrives just in time for the holidays. During this season of giving and receiving, connection and celebration, it is entirely normal that current and prior losses are bubbling up. For some this can be an extremely difficult time because our fantasies are not jiving with our reality - making us particularly vulnerable to feeling isolated and lonely. “Be tender with yourself and find the people, the places where you feel well received, where you feel cared for and seen.” She reminds us that the psyche pushes for wellness, wanting to find some deep resource internally that can facilitate the healing we all want and need. From her Buddhist practice she offers this perspective - healing from loss can be helped through mindfulness and a spiritual practice that allows for what we find.

Meet This Episode's Guest

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Dr. Pilar Jennings


Pilar Jennings, PhD, is a psychoanalyst in private practice with a focus on the clinical applications of Buddhist meditation.  She has been working with patients and their families through the Harlem Family Institute since 2004. A visiting lecturer at Union Theological Seminary, and a guest lecturer at Columbia University, she is the author of Mixing Minds: The Power of Relationship in Psychoanalysis and Buddhism.


Find out more about Pilar and her work on her website


Emerging From the Ashes of Loss: Living In Color with Anthoula Katsimatides

Anthoula shares her journey of transforming the grey ash of loss into colorful silk thread, strong enough to mend her wounds, helping her heart grow bigger and more loving. She speaks about how her losses have shaped the person she is now - an actor/writer of her own story, a humanitarian citizen of the world, a person who struggles with issues of trust, yet believes it is vital to give what you can every day - whether a smile, a kind word, even a poop bag! Her story inspires us with her brave commitment to her motto - “My HEART, in all caps, leads the way!”


Meet This Episode's Guest

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 Anthoula Katsimatides

Anthoula, a true artist at heart, was born and raised in Astoria, Queens and is eagerly pursuing her acting career.

Anthoula has played parts in films such as “Taking Woodstock” (directed by Oscar-winner Ang Lee) and “The Family” (starring Robert Deniro & Michelle Pfeifer, directed by Luc Besson).  Anthoula can be seen in the Fall working opposite Jane Fonda in the Netflix film "Our Souls at Night”. Anthoula made her off-Broadway theatre debut in “Murder in The First” (59E59 Theater), and absolutely loves being on stage! She has developed her own one-woman show, called “What Will People Think?” and has her own radio show titled “Color Your Life” on Thursdays @7pm on Hellenic Public Radio Cosmos 91.5FM.

Anthoula is involved in many charitable endeavors. Specifically, she is proud of the JaM Foundation for Life, created in memory of her loving brothers, John and Michael. (www.Jamfoundation.org). She is also a major supporter of the Samaritans in NYC (www.smaritansnyc.org), and was appointed by Mayor Bloomberg to the board of directors of The National September 11th Memorial & Museum (www.911memorial.org).

Anthoula also shared with us her favorite quote by Calvin Coolidge. She says that it keeps her going in all aspects of her life, both personal and professional.

"Nothing in the world can take the place of Persistence.

Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent.

Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb.

Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts.

Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan 'Press On' has solved andalways will solve the problems of the human race."

For more, please visit www.anthoula.com and follow her on Twitter & Instagram @AnthoulaKats.